Joab doesn’t have much compassion for David’s mournful spirit. In his abrupt fashion, Joab reminds David that business must go on. David was almost rudely plucked from his grieving to get on with being a king. Had he thought how his behavior would be making his army and throng of supporters feel? Minimized to be sure.
Sometimes we need that advisor or friend in our lives to shake us up a bit. Especially when we find ourselves wallowing in a non-beneficial pool of muck. Sometimes we are comfortable in our agony. Sometimes we just want to shut out the world and have some quiet time.
Why was Zadok’s son so eager to give King David the news, and then not tell him about his son’s fate? If you’ve ever lost a child or known someone who has, you know the agony of loss. It’s like the order of things, the circle of life, if you will, are all messed up. Who in their right mind would want to deliver that news?
As it turns out, even bold Joab knew the news would be devastating to the king. That’s why he called up an Ethiopian to bring the news to spare any harm of the king’s wrath, to his own men. The outsider did not have the same fear or dread that held Ahimaaz back from revealing Absalom’s death.
David is a very talented musician. We might forget that piece of his character with all the fighting and displays of his military might. David was quite an individual. We all have different ways of mourning our losses, and in this case, David turns to song.
David was progressing through the stages of grief identified by the Kübler-Ross model. The five stages of grief are: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Other models would add guilt. People move through these emotions in different ways. I think David used this song as he worked through these stages.
Think of the friends you have had over your lifetime. Say a
silent, all-inclusive prayer for them that God will meet their needs today.
Some may have passed on, others you see regularly, and others have gone their
way and may be totally out of touch. It’s interesting how life happens, and
friends come and go.
The proverb I chose today speaks volumes on how we can be an
understanding friend to someone going through a dark season. Verse 20 says, “Singing
cheerful songs to a person with a heavy heart is like taking someone’s coat in
cold weather or pouring vinegar in a wound.” I am one that believes music
can heal anything. Musicians are like that. However, we are warned here in this
nugget of wisdom. Don’t be too cheery around friends who are struggling. It
doesn’t help. Your upbeat demeanor is NOT going to “rub off.” It may even make
the situation worse, like pouring vinegar on a wound – ouch!