The art of listening, and it is an art, is dying. Now that’s a bold statement and, if true, frightening. Today’s proverb is found in verse 13, “Spouting off before listening to the facts is both shameful and foolish.” Finding someone who truly listens can be hard. There are certain professions where the art of listening is key, such as doctors, lawyers, reporters, coaches, just to name a few. For them to be productive and successful in their jobs, they need to listen and understand those with whom they are interacting.
So often, people are either in a rush or too worried about their own problems to be totally present with another human. How do I know? Because I have been guilty of this. Listening is something I have to work on every day. I have to control my mind and tell it to slow down. So many things are rushing through my head, including things I could say or inject into the conversation. If I don’t blurt it out, how will I remember it when they give me a chance to speak?
Listening. It is a gift. We all want to be heard. We all want some attention. How does it feel when you have finished sharing something with someone and they either just nod their head or then go on to talk about themselves, appearing to have totally discounted what you have just said? When we can shut out all the noise in our head and be totally present for those who are communicating with us, that is priceless.
Our proverb today talks about answering before listening. I picture someone who has interrupted the other, trying to answer the question he or she thought they were going to ask. Don’t you hate that? There is a beautiful synergy that happens when people are in tune to each other and finish each other’s sentences. That has even been something I’ve had happen because of the strong connection with another person. But we’re talking about something else here. It’s a distinct, yet fine line kind of difference. Don’t assume, listen.
How about your relationship with God? Do you take time to listen to him? Or do you rush on, going about your business? What if God has a message for you and you miss it? How do you think he’s going to try and get your attention? When we are intentional about our time with God, he will speak to us. That’s why I named my devotional blog Be-Still. It’s a reminder to us to take time to slow down, to connect, to reflect, to listen.
Think about the last conversation you had. Were you totally present? What was the person trying to say to you? Did you blurt out your thoughts or opinions too soon? Do you even remember what you talked about? Don’t beat yourself up. Just strive at being a better listener next time.
Let’s pray … Lord, I need your help to be a better listener. There are so many times I think my own agenda is more important and forget the other person needs me to be present. Forgive me for not taking more time to be listening for your voice, too. Thank you for the reminder that I need to slow down, I need to be more focused, I need to keep my mouth shut and just listen. In Jesus’ name. Amen.
